A #contrarians viewpoint on personal goal setting and new year’s resolutions

Most people will have several goals for the new year. They will want to have a better relationship with their loved ones and publish a book, or travel to a far away place and get a promotion at work, or start a business, and quit smoking etc. It is the dream to “have it all”.

Then there are the folks who pick one for each – work and life for each year. That’s more realistic but still tremendously ambitious.

I have expressed my views on work-life balance for entrepreneurs before. If you think you can achieve it, then you are delusional. A startup consumes all your time.

If you have a new baby or have a close friend who has one, you’d know the feeling. They are always overwhelmed. They are planning the kids meals, nap time, play time, etc. There’s almost no “time” at all. That’s how a startup is. If you are not thinking about product, then it is funding, else it is sales or customer support. There’s always more stuff to do than there’s time.

Over the last 6 months I have been focused on one project – losing weight. I over-achieved my goal with a month to spare in fact.

Over the last 6 months I have written fewer than 15 blog posts. Compare that to the previous 6 months, I had written 82.

Over the last 6 months I had shared 78 items that I found interesting to read. Compare that to the previous 6 months, I had shared 431.

Over the last 6 months I have averaged running 13 miles every day. Compare that to the previous 6 months, I barely managed 2.

Over the last 6 months, I had 21 calls with entrepreneurs to understand their business and help them find investors, talent or be a friend and a guide. Compare that to the previous 6 months, I had the opportunity to work with 67.

Over the last 6 months I had 5 parties at home with my close friends over lunches, dinners, gatherings, etc. Compare that to the previous 6 months, I had 18. 

Over the last 6 months, I obsessed over my only goal – losing weight and getting my fitness back. It will be obvious to you that I did little else.

I only had time to go to work, do my job and come back to work on losing weight so I can suffer less from my plantar fasciitis.

We moved from Bangalore to Seattle so I was learning a lot about the way startups in America have changed over the last few years I was away. That would take up all my working hours.

In fact if you track my posts since March 2014 to Dec 2014, you will see the pattern. When I had a moment, I was working out or researching food options or focused on my job at Microsoft.

Here’s the thing:

I dont think anyone can do more than one thing very well, at any time.

Either it is work, OR home. Either it is business or personal. There’s only goal you can set for the new year and do a good job to over-achieve your goal.

So, my learning is this.

If you are looking to start your own company and start preparing for GMAT this year, you will do neither well.

If you are looking to lose weight and find a new girlfriend/boyfriend/significant other, you will achieve neither.

If you are trying to do one more thing than the most important thing in your life, you will not succeed.

So, do yourself a favor. Put one goal and remove all other “distractions” from your life. You will over-achieve, even if you are not motivated and lose some energy.

The reason is that if you are going to do only that one thing, then there’s nothing else to distract you.

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