Happy mother’s day. I still miss my mom. She passed away a couple of years ago. Most everything I learned about entrepreneurship over the year’s she knew already and tried to tell me but, I had to learn it on my own, making my own mistakes. Here are the 5 things I learned from her.
1. Have a bias for action: My mom was not one who would talk too much when you needed help or if you needed to get something done. She’d lead by action and focus on “doing” not saying. Her actions truly spoke much louder than her words. When you are working on your startup, it is likely you will have advisers, board members, investors and mentors who will provide you will all the advice you need. The best advisers have a bias for action.
2. Be helpful and give generously: Before “Pay it forward” was a big deal, my mom would practice it. I follow a similar but more selfish approach to paying it forward – Dig your well before you are thirsty. My mom would help others, without expecting anything in return. Do that before you start your company and it helps you when you build your startup. Take as many chances to help others as you build your startup – if you have some time to help, dont pass up the opportunity. Whether it is to help a fellow entrepreneur recruit, critique their website or help the trouble shoot a problem with their technology. It will come back twice as fast and return you twice as much.
3. Your attitude matters more than your state of being: My mom’s attitude was “always sunny”. She would carry the weather with her. Not in a way that made you think things were not difficult, but she’d never get you down because she was in a troubled spot. Her attitude was one where she’d focus her energy, when she was down towards making others feel better. She’d remind me that most people will remember how you helped them feel when they were down.
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - May Angelou
4. Focus on things under your control: My mom would obsess over the salt in the sambar, the right sized cuts on the okra and the temperature of the rice before she served it. She would focus on things she felt were under her control and many times the little things. As an entrepreneur, I have found that even if you set the vision and mission, the strategy and plan right, if you dont execute the small things well, you will do poorly. If you worry more about the competition than your own product direction, you will do badly.
5. Turn your biggest challenges into opportunities: My mom’s attitude towards adversity was enlightening. Although her first instinct was to run from it, she would tell herself that it was going to be better because of her bias towards action. She could find ways to optimize the way to make the biggest challenges into her opportunity to make a difference. As an entrepreneur, you will find customer development challenges, hiring challenges, fund raising challenges, etc. The best way to overcome these is to find a way to accept the challenge and brainstorm to execute the plans you lay out toward eliminating them.
If you have a mom, you should call her
today (as often as you can every day) and tell her how much you love her, and thank her for bringing you to this world. I did not do that enough, hopefully you can learn from my mistake.